I’m sorry to bring this heavy topic out here, but I’m stressed of losing him because he rejected professional therapy and I can’t find some one else to help him :(
Well, just my opinions from a person who has never had depression but has seen plenty of people with depression. Either way, take what I say however you want, just know at the very least that I hope you and him get well soon enough. This sort of stuff is not something that is a joke from what I have seen.
Depression from what I've seen of it, is like a seemingly dark, unclimbable pit. You can easily fall into it but, due to the darkness and seemingly steep nature of it, climbing out of it seems nigh impossible.
The way I've seen others climb out of it from my perspective is through a combination of support from those close to them and them coming to a realization that what they are dealing with is unhealthy and that it must be dealt with. The tricky part is usually the latter part, the realization, as that takes time to come to.
The best thing that can serve as a crutch of sorts until they finally come to a realization is to be supportive of them and to listen to their woes. There have been way too many times I can say that I have seen people bottle up their woes to try and not unleash it on the world and those around them for various reason, only for that built up energy to release all at once.
Acting as a way to let out the energy overtime to prevent it from blowing up at one point will go a long way to helping them not collapse further. It is taxing, that I will not lie, but it's either the pain of listening to their darkness or the pain of having a hole put in your chest because you didn't help. To me, I would say the latter is the worst.
As for the texts... Well, from what experience I have seen, try to look for the changes in how he texts in between his moods... Long texts can become short and small ones, the choice of words can go from enthusiastic to uncharacteristic of them normally, they might not want to talk or hang out as much, and so on.
It's often the little differences that can sometimes go under our mental radar whether it is the receiver or the texter, but as the receiver, it can be possible to pick up on the signs but it is definitely not as easy to pick up on mood changes like body language.
Either way, I hope this might help in some regard. I know that you worrying about him already shows you have a bunch of compassion for him regardless of how he is feeling. I am certain he appreciates that about you and that he thinks of you highly for that. Keep trying with him, I think eventually he will come to a realization and start to combat his depression and when he does, keep on supporting his upward assent.
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