The disconnect issue

I am writing this to offer any help I can do whatsoever to help fix this whether it is run some sort of program to monitor things or not. Since the release of rekindled I have been suffering from an issue where I inconsistently however constantly get disconnected. To describe it I'd put it like this:
Spells stop working, I stop being able to drink potions or have any message I type in chat get sent however I can see everything that happens as well as other people chatting. This continues for several seconds until I finally end up getting disconnected.

I have been in a groupchat with several others who have had the issue and talked to multiple people regarding ways to fix it. It appears to be an issue with proxys where the packets that I send aren't accepted however I still receive ones sent by the server.

Things attempted:
Changing DNS
Changing version of mc
Disabling all mods
Changing JVM argument
Updating Java
Changing ingame settings
IP reset etc

The only thing that has had an impact has been using a VPN and routing it to Toronto in Canada. This however has had some issues as most recently I had around 5 minutes delay while ingame and in the end disconnected (right as I was looting Annie reward chest :skull:). I have so far missed out on lots of annies and raid/event rewards so it's been rough however I still love the server.

I can provide logs or anything if asked.

Sincerely,
rnove

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I estimate my losses at upwards of 2 stacks of LE

 

The server is a bit laggy at the moment with the release of rekindled
There is nothing to do about it

 

If it is mainly happening during raids, a lot of players having the same problem.

 

Yea I have the same issue, especially during raids when the server gets to its knees. At times when fewer ppl play it seems to be less severe.

 

I have the same problem.. after update 2.1 i have lag/ping problems

 

Using a vpn has fixed a lot of people’s problems with disconnecting especially in raids
There is a free vpn called proton
(This has worked for like 10 people I know that were all suffering from disconnecting)
It does not fix all issues but reduced the amount of them by a lot